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2010.04.09 16:19:11
Patrick OConnor

It was mid-April, and Maura was just about to send in her enrollment deposit at the college of her choice.  It hadn’t been the first choice on her list, but the financial aid package was considerably better than the offer that was made at her top choice school.  This would leave more money for graduate school—and besides, a second trip to campus convinced her she could be happy and successful there.

Maura took her deposit check to her mailbox, only to discover the mail had come early that day.  She flipped through the mail on her way up the driveway and discovered a letter from the financial aid office at her top choice school.  “We’re glad you’re still considering us” the letter read, “and we wanted to let you know we found another $3000 in annual grant money for you.  Please let us know if you have any questions, and we look forward to seeing you in the fall.”

Maura ran back to the mailbox and texted her father to tell him the good news.

While this may sound like the best dream you could have that doesn’t involve front row seats at a Lady Gaga concert, students had experiences similar to this one last year with their eyes wide open.  For reasons that can’t be explained, many colleges sent out letters in the midst of decision month to admitted students who hadn’t sent in their deposits that said “hey, we just ripped open the mattress, and look what we found!”  The economy was tough, there were more than enough students to go around, yet Santa came early to these seniors, and proved to be a game changer.

Since it happened last year, is it likely to happen this year?  It’s hard to say—and that’s the problem.  On the one hand, seniors are getting phone calls every night from well-meaning students saying “Hope you’ll join us”; on the other hand, families who know about last year’s mystery money are telling students to hold on and see what happens, thinking colleges will court them like presidential candidates schmooze undecided voters on Halloween—except of course, the students get cash, while the voters don’t.

Since we can’t tell which colleges might be offering incentives to which students, families should consider two things.  First, if you’re in Maura’s shoes, call your first choice college and tell them they’re it, but the money situation is tight—this isn’t bargaining as much as it’s being honest.  While last year’s bonus bucks came to students out of the blue, many more students got increased aid by simply asking for it—so that might be worth a try.

 

Second, read your admission information carefully.  It’s true you have until May 1 to deposit at 1—and only one—college, but some colleges engage in the shady practice of giving better housing and top dibs for class registration to students who deposit before then.  That’s violating the spirit of the May 1 deadline, but it’s still being done, and that could leave you with five 8 AM classes next fall, and having Mr. Ed as your roommate. If your college is offering these “bonuses”, call them to see if they have more aid for you, and go from there.  If another college calls with more money before May 1, you can always cancel your deposit at School A, but you might not get it back.  

The windfall for last year’s undecided students makes this April an even crueler month—take a close look at your options, then make your best call.

 

 



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2010.03.05 01:55:40
Patrick OConnor

Today’s column begins with another college quiz.  Ready?

 

 1.      What is the purpose of college?

2.      What person was recently quoted as saying “I’m not very pretty”?

Frequent readers have the first answer tattooed on their arm, next to the Web address for Colleges That Change Lives.  The purpose of college is to give you the opportunity to continue to live the wonderful life you already have, and to understand more about yourself, the world, and your relationship to the world.

I’m pointing this out again because this is the time of year when all kinds of people forget that.  As seniors and their families wait for the March Madness of college decisions, and as juniors get back their tentative class schedules for next year and decide if it’s “college-worthy”, it’s easy to think school is more about thick envelopes and “getting in” than personal growth.  

That’s not to say high school should be a breeze, or that diligence and achievement shouldn’t be recognized. But what does it say about college choice if you get into a name college you’d hate going to, or if you get a 7  AP class senior-year schedule with so much homework you can’t even remember your name? There’s a fine difference between self-growth and self-destruction, and if you’re not careful, this approach to college can spill over into other areas of your life, like dating, career exploration, or self-identity…

…which leads us to Question 2.  The person who thinks they aren’t pretty is Anne Hathaway.  Right—not the Anne Hathaway who works at the corner deli, but the Anne Hathaway.  It’s nice to hear a little humility coming from Hollywood, and  I certainly don’t want to diss the reigning queen of Genovia, but either a new mirror or a new perspective is in order— and such is the case when the dream of being admitted to college is more important than the reality of going there.  The first ground rule is keeping grounded.

This same topic is addressed in a must-see movie. “Race to Nowhere” documents the lives of students who discover that more really can be less, and some of these lessons are hard ones.  The trailer’s at www.racetonowhere.com  Take a peek before you decide if a fourth community service project is really all that important— and either way, do your community a service by asking your counselor to set up a screening of this film for your school.

“But dude”, says you, “aren’t you the guy who tells us colleges want us to do all this crazy stuff?  Isn’t it your job to tell us to dance a little faster in order to win the game?”

I honestly don’t think I’ve ever called college choice a game—if I did, I was wrong.  Classes, extra-curriculars and community service aren’t the elements of a game—they are ingredients in the recipe of your life, and my job is to give you cooking lessons.  The recipe for life—and for college success-- is only complete with healthy doses of perspective and self-knowledge.  Without them, you might end up like this guy, who didn’t think he was good enough to be a professional singer.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1k08yxu57NA 

And just how did Paul Potts decide to audition for Britain’s Got Talent, which led to performing before Queen Elizabeth and selling over 4 million albums?

He flipped a coin.

 

Don’t leave your sense of self to chance.  Dream big, but live bigger, and never, ever leave the house before you peer into the looking glass and see your face for what it really is—pretty awesome.

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2010.02.26 22:14:31
Patrick OConnor

To Sheila, it seemed like the perfect safety school.  It had the program she wanted, she was well above the college’s average GPA and test scores, and she liked the college’s reputation for an above average social life.

 

Even though she was admitted to one of her first choice colleges, the Plan B school hit the A list when she was offered a large merit scholarship and an invitation to join the school’s Honors College.  The promise of small classes and the sense of adventure called to her, and she answered—she sent her deposit in and left her hometown in the dust.

 

The romance lasted one year.  Halfway into the second semester, she realized she was already taking junior-level classes in the university’s Honors College, and some of them didn’t ask very much from her.  She sat back and did the math— since she was on track to complete senior-level classes as a sophomore, what would she study for the last two years of college?

 

Around the same time, she realized there was only so much partying she needed in her life, which was much less than her fellow students needed.  She had a thoughtful conversation with her parents, finished the semester, and transferred to the first choice college she’d been admitted to the year before.

 

What lessons did Sheila learn that could help you?  Simple:

 

There’s no such thing as a Plan B school.  Sheila didn’t give a single thought to the social lives of the other colleges she applied to, but it was one of the main reasons she applied to the college she attended—and that change should have been the wake-up call that this wasn’t the college for her. You definitely need to apply to at least one college where your chances of admission are strong, but that doesn’t mean you’re looking for a different kind of college. Keep the same criteria, and make them all first choice colleges.

 

Look past the labels.  Honors colleges, residential programs, and learning-living communities offer smaller classes, which are generally a plus—but they also offer fewer classes, which can be a minus. If AP credits or placement exams take half the limited choices off the table, that makes college less of a learning experience, and more of a hep community with lots of people your age that’s interrupted by the need to go to class once in a while.  College is about living AND learning—make sure you’ll get the chance to do both.

 

Turn off the disco ball in your head.  Merit scholarships and junior-level placements can be real ego boosters (and can sure help cash-strapped parents), but if the college just isn’t you, it’s like paying half-price for a pair of jeans you’ll never wear.  If April finds you thinking about a school you didn’t pay much attention to six months ago, you MUST visit the campus again. Pull out the list of what you wanted in a school, and view the campus clearly; it’s cool if your priorities have changed in a school because you’re a different person now, but it’s not cool if you need to change the person you are because of the priorities of the school. Look.

 

Listen to your counselor.  No disrespect to Sheila, but I told her family to do these things, and they blew me off.  We may be older, we may drive ugly cars, and our hair isn’t what it used to be, but our job is to guide you around the landmines of college selection—and we are very good at it.  Let us help you.



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2009.05.31 07:06:16
Patrick OConnor

This is the time of year college counselors just love. With the seniors on their way to graduating (you there--be sure to pay your book fees and pass your finals), and with the juniors focused on final exams that complete a very important semester, almost no one is coming into talk about letters of recommendation,college searches, or financial aid.

 

For as much as I enjoy this brief respite (which happens to coincide with the Stanley Cup playoffs), I wouldn't really be doing my duty if I didn't share some important information with seniors and their families:

 

It's not too late to apply to college.

 

I know, I know--you think you're well aware of the choices you have now, which probably include community colleges and a couple of commuter colleges that take applications through August (and these are great options). These perennial choices are certainly on the list, but thanks to the economy, there are some others as well. Consider these entrees:

 

  • The dream school you found after May 1st. It's not uncommon for seniors to have “where are you going “discussions with other students at graduation parties, or standing in line for graduation rehearsal--and then you hear about the place you've been looking for but never found. Last year, I would have said call, but don't expect much; this year, not only should you call, but you should ask about financial aid to boot--especially if it's a private college. The economy continues to chug along, but recent increases in interest rates and the bankruptcy of GM means many college plans will change yet again, and soon. This could create opportunities for you--so call and ask, and if you don't like the answer you get, call again in a month.

 

  • The college who said no to you, Part I. It may be that a college who's hurting for students is a college who hurt your feelings by denying you admission in the fall--the only problem is, they haven't got enough students now, so you're looking a lot more promising. Many colleges that are in this bind feel they CAN'T call you, because of a commitment colleges keep to each other--once a student deposits at College A, College B doesn't play Jack Sparrow and try to hoist your petard to their school. They have to stick to the code, but there's nothing in the code that says you can't call--give it a thought.

 

  • The college who said no to you, Part II. Once you're on the phone, be sure to ask if they'd be willing to consider you for admission in the summer semester, or in January. Many colleges are starting to make admission offers for early and late starts, especially the late starts, when they know that, despite everyone's best efforts, some students just won't be coming back after Christmas break. These options are also appealing because they give you either a summer on campus to get used to the place (putting you ahead of the freshmen who arrive in the fall), or fall semester off to chill, work, or do some serious community service work before you have to hit the books again--and if you're afraid this means you can't get football tickets, ask!

 

Some people say colleges are only being flexible because they need students, while others say these changes are overdue, and will be around to stay. Either way, here they are, waiting for you--check them out, and see what can happen.



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2009.04.25 07:01:29
Patrick OConnor

It's coming right down to the wire. This Friday, May 1st, is the day seniors notify one college--and one college only--that you plan on attending in the fall. Chances are this won't be an easy decision; while applications are at an all-time high, most students were admitted to more than one college, leaving their options open for as long as possible--but now it's time to choose.

 

It's not uncommon to be uncertain right now, but you really do have a lot of time--you've put semester-long projects together in five days, and they came out O.K. If you're in need of some guidelines as you think your way to Friday, try these:

 

• Think college qualities, not college names. There are reasons why you loved the colleges you applied to--the small class size, the classes they offer, the feel on campus. Write those qualities down, and see how each of your schools matches up to those qualities.

• Visit the campuses--one way or another. The last time you visited your colleges, you were thinking ‘I guess this could work.' This isn't a time to guess--head back to campus with Mom and Dad, bring your list of qualities, and take a much closer look--including sitting in on classes if at all possible. If you can't get there, take the virtual tour on the college's Web site--that may bring back some memories, or show you some new things to consider

• De-brief at the end. Once you're through with a campus visit, talk with your parents about what you saw. What qualities were on campus that you liked? What new questions do you have? Can you see yourself at this college?

• Seek parental input. It's great to show some independence, but your parents are the two people who know you best. Invite their expertise--“Mom, Dad, do you see me being happy here?”

• Compare the colleges you have, not the ones you wanted. Once you've toured the campuses, compare their strengths and weaknesses--but leave the dream school that denied you out of the picture. You might not find a perfect campus, but you'll most likely find a best one--focus on that goal, and you'll be fine.It's time to move on.

• Don't forget your heart... You might not able to describe why a college is best for you, but that's OK. You've done a lot of research and thinking--at this point, you can trust your heart to lead you. Your head will remember why this college was best for you when you come to campus in the fall.

• Check finances one last time. You still can't get two colleges in a bidding war over you, but if you have a college you love and it's a little out of reach, call the admissions and financial aid offices--that's usually two calls--and tell them so.A sincere call shows them you're interested; not calling at all doesn't give any impression, and may leave you short in the wallet for no reason at all.

• Start the hunt again. If your choices really don't thrill you, wait until May 5th. That's when colleges discover they have unexpected openings--and of course they'll want to fill them. Getting financial aid might be a challenge, but you never know--call the admissions office, or look at the Space Availability Report at www.nacacnet.org-- but remember, that may mean you risk having no school at all next fall.

I said it once, and I'll say it again--you can do this.



  
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2009.02.21 06:51:55
Patrick OConnor

Snow may be covering the football fields on many campuses, but colleges all over the country are blooming with open houses. Often scheduled to coincide with high school vacations like Presidents Day and Spring Break, these day-long programs offer juniors and their parents the chance to take a close look at a college, and see if perhaps it should be a must add to the list of 6-8 colleges students should have as possible schools come fall of their senior year.

 

Visiting college campuses is an absolute must for all juniors. Counselors report an amazingly high number of juniors who have never been on a college campus, except for the occasional football game. These students really need to hit the college trail, if only to get a feel for what makes one college different from another; just like families buying houses (yes, they used to do that) know they have to walk around a house and see the neighborhood, students need to try on a campus and see if it feels like home, since that's what a college will be for the next few years.

 

At the same time, open houses might not be the best time to visit. For starters, open houses bring a huge number of visitors to campus at the same time, which means it's business as unusual for a campus--and how can you get a sense of what a 1200 student campus is really like if 600 high school students and parents are in the mix that day? In addition, maybe what you need on a day off from high school is--well, a day off. Visiting colleges is important, but if you've just finished a tough slate of final exams, maybe a trip to the paintball palace is a better use of the day.

 

What's the best way to tell if the open house is a must do? Check the schedule of activities. Many open houses consist of a welcome from the admissions office, a tour, a chance to sit in on a class, an information session on the college, and a chance to ask about financial aid. This is all essential material, but there's a good chance you can still get all of this information (often in the exact same format) if you visit campus some other time. Check out the college's Visit Us Web site to find out what's available on non-open house days, and look closely to make sure you can sit in on classes; if all of this is regularly available, the open house becomes a can do, not a must do--talk with your parents, and make your best call...

 

...and whenever you visit, do your best to do both the tour and the information session. Tours tend to be a good overview of what the college sees as its best stuff; if the tour guide talks more about student organizations than academics and spends more time showing you the workout facilities than the science labs, that says something about what the college values, and that's important for you to compare to what you value. The information session usually offers more details about the college--here's the time to ask about study abroad, research opportunities, and admission requirements. Most of this information is also covered when the college visits your high school, but Mom and Dad won't hear it at your high school, and it wouldn't hurt you to hear this lowdown as a family--so do both whenever you go, and be sure to debrief in the car (both likes and dislikes) on the ride home.



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2009.01.15 06:48:15
Patrick OConnor

You there, with the Chemistry book in your hands--did ya know there's a spider Web between that page you've been looking at and your eyebrows?It's time for a break...

 

...or should I say, a change? If you've been looking at that book for a mole's worth of seconds, you don't know we're getting a new president of theUnited States. (Of course, if you've been studying for a mole's worth of seconds, you don't even know about the United States--or dinosaurs, for that matter.) Barack Obama's campaign for change electrified a country, and millions of students texted Barack to join the ranks of his bffs. Once the campaign was over, changes started to take place...

 

...but many Obamaites don't think the changes are all that James. Circuit City just closed, banks are still broke, three Middle Eastern countries are still up for grabs, and someone on your block just lost their job, their house--or both. Your parents remember the ad that asked “Where's the beef?”, and that's what many people want to know about the promises of change--to them, this is looking lamer than a Britney Spears cover of a Snoop Dogg record.

 

But that's the thing-- change isn't magic. Just like you can't snap your fingers and move your Chem grade to an A++, war, world hunger, and bad mortgages aren't just going to go away when Barack Obama takes the oath Tuesday. Changing direction starts with putting your hand on the wheel and taking a new route--you drive your way out of where you are and head towards where you want to be.The scenery may look familiar, but if you give it time keep the goal in mind and do something new--rather than wish for something new-- you'll see new turf and fresh opportunities soon enough.

 

As it is with government, so it is with you. That last report card may not exactly be what you hoped for, but it's done; the question is, what do you want the next report card to look like, and what are you willing to do about it? Once you know, you're going to put on the same clothes, head for the same high school--and make something new. The scenery may look familiar, and right about January 27th, you might wonder if anything is going to change. But if you look closely, you'll see new turf--the library, the study skills center, that NHS tutor in Chemistry who's actually kind of cute--and fresh opportunities will be there...

 

...and outside the classroom, too. President-elect Obama has asked all Americans to honor Dr. Martin Luther King the day before the inauguration through community service. Since it's January, this can't become one of those barbecue national holidays anyway--so why don't you give this a try? Call the library, the Red Cross, the senior citizens home, and see what you can change in two hours. But do me a favor--keep this off your college applications. This one's for your neighbor, your country, and your new president; show them all what real change means by changing the way you give of yourself-- for one day, don't keep track of the good you do.

 

Robert Fulghum was right--you learned the most important word in kindergarten, and it's “Look.”Once you know what's possible, remember change is something that's made, not given, not even in 6.02 times 10 to the 23rdyears.Seeing change might seem to take that long, but living change starts as soon as you're ready to inaugurate it.

 

How's today sound?



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